Less D Daily

So tomorrow’s No D Day.  Don’t blog or tweet about diabetes.  Clearly, I don’t have diabetes and while C’s in school most of the day it is only with me in my head.  Wondering how it’s affecting him and what his numbers might be and wishing I knew how he was feeling.  I could go a day without writing about diabetes easily.

For about a month though, I’ve been trying to give C this luxury.  I’ve been trying to TALK about it less to him.  The rolling eyes or exaggerated sighs are enough to tell me that he’s sick of HEARING about it.  I give him phone and carbs for his pocket in the morning, check that his meter’s in his backpack and test him while still asleep so if he needs a correction we can get it started before breakfast.

However, when we get to school I always ask, “Phone meter carbs?”  “Do you have carbs?” “Check that your meter’s in your backpack” “I forgot, check that there’s enough test strips” and so on.  The looks I get and the hasty way he checks tell me I need to STFU.

I pick him up, ask about his day and school and then ask about his numbers, did he have carbs before PE, did he eat his lunch, please test now so I know where you’re at, etc.  So lately I’m trying to just check the meter and bring it up if there were kooky numbers.  I just put the meter on the kitchen counter so he remembers to check after school before snacking.

Obviously, we HAVE to talk about diabetes, there’s no way around it.  BUTTTT, I know that there are carbs in his backpack, every classroom and in the office at school.  The office has an extra meter and plenty of extra strips.  I can put his phone and carbs next to his breakfast, check that his meter’s in his backpack and that’s it.  I don’t have to do the double-check.  It’s helpful, but annoying and if I don’t and he blows it, there’s backup where he’s going. 

This morning, all I said to him when I dropped him off was, “Make sure the ringer’s off on your phone before school starts.”  We had a nice, no stress or annoyance good-bye.   I’m going to try to keep up this no D-nagging policy.


4 Responses

  1. Emily – That sounds like a nice approach and also let’s him be more empowered. I wasn’t Diagnosed until 22 yrs old so my parents never dealt with diabetes. I can’t image how hard it must be to manage it with your child. Seriously, parents like you are inspirational. I’m sure it was very difficult for you to let go a little, but some day he’s going to have to manage it by himself.

  2. Emily, I have just been turned to many of these blogs from some of my D-mom friends. Yours caught my eye immediately. My son (9) was just diagnosed with Type 1 on July 27, 2010. Today, our GI specialist called with the results of his biopsy last Thursday…Positive for Celiac Disease. Though we knew the Celiac diagnosis was likely it still seems like yet another blow for my son. I am trying to research, research, research and would love any advice you might have for a D-mom dealing with Celiac. Do you and your other son follow a gluten-free diet? Also, how do you find those “hidden” wheat fillers everyone keeps telling me about…


  3. My son’s diet is completely gluten free. I keep very little food in the house containing gluten just to reduce cross-contamination or him mistakenly eating the wrong foods. Hidden gluten is really hard. I avoid any food that I’m not sure of. Foods labeled GF are the easiest, otherwise I check allergy statements on websites. If they’re not listed I call or email the company. On my iphone I have apps that are lifesavers. If you have one I HIGHLY recommend GF Groceries, Is that Gluten Free? and Is that Gluten Free-Eating Out.
    I’m not sure how I would figure things out without those!!
    Also, Udi’s Gluten Free makes THE BEST bread! Udi’s is our favorite brand of GF food. Pamela’s and Glutino are great, too. Please feel free to get a hold of me if you have any questions. I’ll do my best to help!

  4. Thanks Tony, It is hard to let go of control. On one hand I want to be sure he is as healthy and safe as possible to limit comlications. On the other hand, he’ll never learn from mistakes if he doesn’t make them himself.

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